One of the hardest things for me to not do is keep my thoughts to myself. Particularly when I think those thoughts will help someone. Just this weekend I came across 3 different situations where I would have liked to say something. But I didn't. I'll share some here, but withhold names, and some details in order to avoid problems. In 2 of the cases the chances are pretty slim that they'll read this so this is a pretty safe venue.
1. I was invited to a kid's birthday party. The child was turning 2, and the invitation had a section in which the parent basically said: we'll have some booze, but feel free to bring your own. I had to hold my tongue from replying how I didn't think a 2 year old's birthday party was an appropriate occasion for an adult party involving lots of liquor. Fortunately the party did not turn out that way so it was all good.
2. I know a person with serious substance abuse problems. And it is really affecting his marriage. Last year in fact there was an intervention. But apparently that hasn't really accomplished what was needed. Now I have had my own strugles with alcohol, although I never let it cause irreperable damage. And I want to sit this person down and tell them that they've got to stop, but it's not my place, and doing so might destroy what few ties we have.
3. A friend of mine and his wife are fighting the battle over whether to have kids. They have reasons to not have kids right away, but my friend is saying he never wants to have kids period. While his wife does want to have kids at some point. I've talked with both of them, stated my opinion (I think they would be great parents etc.) But I guess recently it's become a point of contention, and I would like to have a long talk with my friend about it, but again, I have to remain silent. Although to be honest, they probably both read my blog intermittently so there's a good chance they'll read this. So this is the least silent of my keeping my mouth shut strategies as it were.
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